In My Opinion…your Opinion doesn’t matter! (SO SHUT UP!)
Being a style Blogger can sometimes be confused with being self absorbed, cocky, overly confident, and just wanting to take and post pictures of yourself all the time. And for some that may be so, but my motives are the complete opposite. As confident as I am, I struggle with my insecurities just like anyone else. And believe it or not, I have not always been so sure of myself. I am continuously on a journey to fully embrace all of me. Still to this day I have my moments where I look in the mirror and go ugh! My mission is to motivate others who identify with me to embrace themselves in spite of what others think. I struggle with how much of myself to reveal to others, because once your insecurities are out there, you become vulnerable. So bear with me as I share with you something that I have been debating to blog about for a couple of days now. Here it goes…
When I posted this picture on social media over the weekend…
I received comments like…
“Showing some skin huh”
“Swag is SICK I swear!”
But you know there is always that one…the negative one. My mother always told me if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say nothing at all, but apparently NO ONE follows that unwritten rule.
A couple of days after I posted that photo, some one walks up to me and says “why do I see your stomach out on my timeline?” So the
asshole that lies deep within me responded, “ummm because I uploaded a picture so it appeared on your timeline, that’s why.”
The person then proceeded to say that “aint suppose to be out!” I responded why not, I see absolutely nothing wrong with it. The person says if your belly has a curve it shouldn’t be out, that’s not for people your size. (The nerve right!..people will really say anything to you) My emotions began to flare! I am one of those people who sounds like they are speaking aggressively when they are speaking about something that they are passionate about.
So I politely gathered my thoughts and explained that I thought the way I was dressed was very tasteful and appropriate for my body type. It was only a hint of midriff exposed and my stomach was not hanging all over the place. The person then proceeds to make a joke about how if you don’t have a four pack, then no parts of your stomach should be exposed. The person then giggled while saying “so if you have a “one or a two” (meaning pack) then you should’t wear it.” I asked whose rule is this? I explained that this is the problem with society, everyone is trying to conform to the industry standard. But what makes “the industry” credible enough to dictate what we should and should’t do. My motto is “I WEAR WHAT I WANT.” And that is literally what I do. And, since I don’t meet the industry’s standard of Beauty, then technically I don’t have to follow their fabricated rules of whats socially acceptable. It simply just doesn’t apply to me right?! Right!
Needless to say the discussion went on back and forth for about 10 minutes until I decided to end it by saying that is your opinion! But quite frankly I wanted to say “That is your opinion, and it has no value to me.”
So why did this person feel it necessary to tell me something about my attire? Well, this person in particular makes comments about my pictures and what I’m wearing all the time to me in person. But they never ever hit the like button! Now I will admit social can be too political and overly exaggerated, but I believe in showing love. So if you like something, Literally “LIKE IT.”
hmmm so this got me to thinking…
I know this may sound crazy, but Confidence is offensive! Yes, people don’t like it when you are sure of yourself and truly don’t care what others think of you. It bothers them, so to make themselves feel better they attempt to tear you down.
I think I looked damn good that night, if I have to say so myself!
I believe everyone has to dress for their body type whether you are short, fat, skinny, tall, or just stuck in the middle. Everyone is different. My friend Jahan
tells me all the time. “Everything in moderation, some things not at all.”
That is the perfect life motto and it also relates to style and fashion. I believe me choosing to wear my midriff out was done in moderation. Now perhaps if my skirt was lower and more of my stomach was exposed it could have been all wrong. But that was not the case.
This whole scenario reminded me of a post my friend Adri
and a post my blogger boo Essie
What that person didn’t realized is that the comment actually helped me. It reminded me of why I began blogging and encouraged me to keep doing what my heart desires in spite of adversity .
People will always have something to say. The saying goes “when they are talking about you, that means you are doing something right, when they stop talking then you should worry!
So let em’ talk!
I decided to start the “In my Opinion” section of my blog because I want my readers to get me, and have a better sense of who I am beyond what they see. This is my outlet, this is my voice, this is my opinion.
Thanks for Reading!