When I sat down to write this post, I honestly didn’t know what to say. With all of the positive self talk and self care I give to myself, I would be less than honest if I didn’t admit that sometimes I don’t know if I can do “this.” What is this you may ask… THIS is everything! Sometimes I don’t know if I can live my dreams or be successful, hell or even pay my bills. But then I had to stop and realize, “Kala you are doing it!” There is so much pressure associated with the start of a new year. While everyone is busy creating vision boards and writing down their goals, I find myself unsure. In fact I haven’t written down a single goal for 2019 yet, and the idea of doing so is frankly giving me anxiety. I trust that I will get around to it, but it has not happened for me yet, and its okay.
Until, I am able to put the pen to paper in a more concise manner, I will share the top three ways I plan to grow this year.
We’ve heard it before time and time again. “Comparison is the thief of all joy.” And while I know for sure that this quote is nothing but the truth, it is easier said than done. In the age of social media it is extremely hard not to compare your life to the highlight reel of others on Instagram. Be honest, we all do it! During my time of self reflection, I noticed how much this comparison complex was taking a toll on the way I felt about myself. It even affected my confidence at times, and I am a very confident person. To combat this, I cleaned house and went on a unfollowing spree. If there was content on the internet that didn’t inspire, encourage, entertain or motivate me, I hit delete, block, or unfollow. This year I will continue to be more conscious of what I consume and rid myself of comparison. My friend Ty gave me some great advice to aid me in this which was, “Create more than you consume!” In other words, be so busy doing you, that you simply don’t have time to compare.
SHOP MY LOOK
As I mentioned above, I am a very confident person, but confidence is a journey, not a destination. It is something that I have to work on every single day. At times, I do allow that sneaky self doubt to creep in and I become discouraged. In these moments I simply remind myself of who the F*uck I am. As a creative, its easy to feel like the market is saturated and everyone is already excelling at everything you desire to do. And yes, there are tons of bloggers, you-tubers, influencers, and entrepreneurs out there, but there is room for everyone, and a lane for all.
Anyone can do it, but no one can do it like you!
I am surrounded by so many dope people within my immediate circle, many of which I have the pleasure of calling friend. If that isn’t a blessing in itself, I am constantly meeting more and more amazing people everyday. Too often those encounters turn into social media friendships that are maintained by likes and comments, instead of genuine connections that live offline. Sometimes we become so focused on self, that we don’t take advantage of connecting with and collaborating with the brilliant people around us. This can be as simple as a brainstorming session, working together on a project, or even becoming business partners. Simply put, we are better together.
Well look at that, I think I actually managed to write down three 2019 goals… 🙂